Insta BUZZ: 8 Bizarre Expectations From Indian Daughter-in-laws

By Ruchi Sharma

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Bizarre Expectations From Daughter-in-laws

Why is it that it’s always considered that a daughter-in-law must do all the adjustments. Marriage is all about balance right? So, there needs to be a clear demarcation between adjustments that the whole family does right from the wife to husband to in-laws. The new bride has already left a whole part of her life behind, stepping into a new home and new relations, and all she needs is some support to make things easier in life for her. We believe in equality, so if she takes one step in adjustment, then another one must come from the other side too. But still there are some extremely bizarre expectations from her, here’s some of them!

1. They need to be PERFECT in everything they do

Well, a human tends to make mistakes, in fact even machines make mistakes! Why is it that every single step a daughter-in-law takes is minutely scrutinised. Mistakes happen! Let’s not make life equivalent to walking on eggshells all the time.

2. They should forget their parents

Now this is bizarre. Already she has left her maternal home behind and has accepted her in-laws as her parents too. Why should she forget her responsibilities as a daughter to her parents. Would the concerned parties wanting this want that their own daughters do so someday as well?

3. They should just smile and ADJUST

If one can’t even express their fears and pain in their OWN home, then where will they vent out? Similar to the fact one may not like everything and just accept it, there may be things that the bahus of the family are not comfortable with. They simply cannot be expected to smile and adjust.

4. They should strike the perfect balance in everything

Balance is important but often might not be too easy to maintain. If managing the work life and household responsibilities or some other things is getting overwhelming for her, the least one can do is SUPPORT not simply expect that it has to be perfect.

5. They should support everything and the word NO does not exist

Every person has the right to say NO! If someone asks you something stupid like just jump in a well, would you say Yes? The obvious answer is NO! Similarly the situations may not be so extreme but expecting her to never say no and blindly support everything is truly bizarre. 

6. They should not express any OPINIONS

One has welcomed a new member into their family with open arms right? So definitely you must have some trust in her. Why not have the same trust in her opinions?

7. They should become selfless

That’s one common expectation, but simply not fair. It’s definitely her call if she wants to do something selflessly but one must never negate the fact that she has every right to think about herself too.

8. They should forget that they exist

Would you accept it if someone takes you totally for granted and makes you feel as if you are invisible? No, right? Same thing holds true for daughter-in-laws too! You can't simple expect them to be ok with being treated as invisible when important discussions occur and visible only when they have to perform their duties.

So, what we want to say is, you don’t need to do anything extra but treat your daughter-in-laws exactly the way you would expect your own daughter’s in-laws to treat her! She is also someone’s daughter, let's respect it!

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