Why Traveling Solo Before Your D-Day Would Be The Most Liberating Thing You Will Ever Do?

I was wondering the other day, about all of the many wedding-related celebrations, including bachelor and bachelorette parties, honeymoons, and babymoons. And I realized that one celebration was notably missing: Why isn't there a special pre-wedding outing to celebrate and toast...YOU?

Until you finalized to have a permanent plus one member in your life with all your heart and acceptance, you did have a long-term, dedicated, kind, and enlightening relationship with yourselves.

That’s your essence. You can never lose that relationship with yourselves. So, before you legally, royally, and publicly, commit yourself to someone else, your relationship with you definitely deserves this grand gesture of a selfmoon. Yes, an imaginary term I have just created on my own while writing this blog.

Do you have a better name, guys?! Please let me know in the comments below. I really want this practice to pick as one of our cultural rituals for the wedding.

Christie Hartman, Ph.D., a relationship expert says, “Marriage is about finding that sweet spot between independence and dependence, where you learn to build a life with someone else while staying true to who you are. A solo trip helps you remember who you are and solidify your values,”. I couldn’t agree more with her.

Marriage is a sacred union of two souls. Two complete whole human beings. A vacation on your own will give you the time to be just yourself with your yourselves. Being comfortable talking to random tourists like you, do absolutely silly things that you truly enjoy!

Explore sunsets, sunrise, beaches, and waterfalls on your own. Be in the company of Mother nature and let it fascinate you and pour you in the nostalgia of the beautiful relationship you have had with your own selves until now. Promise your selves that may be no more selfmoons but you gonna keep that relationship with yourselves always intact and glorious like you always have.

Feel the joy of independence of waiting for someone’s company for a meal. Savor your meals on your own. Sip your favorite drink yourself. Celebrate every bit of your existence. Be grateful, be wild, be free. Party with strangers, make new friends and build new memories.

Would you not have enjoyed yourself as much if your partner had been there with you? Of course! You adore taking trips with him. It plays a significant role in any relationship. That, however, is not the point. The point is that going on a single vacation before your wedding allows you to acknowledge your independent side —the very side that first attracted your partner to you. Because, as Hartman pointed out, solidifying your own core values can only help improve your relationship down the line

Don’t just limit your singlehood to a bachelorette party, ladies. Never!

Of course, your girls are going to throw you the best bash ever. And it is going to be flattering, warm, and lovely. There will be a number of toasts made for you, in your honor, full of love by all the women who made you who you are today. But a selfmoon, it shall always hit differently. It will be a toast to yourself, by yourself, and for your future self.

This liberating experience will make you feel better and more YOU than ever. It will groom you to take your best self to your marriage and beyond.

So, where are you heading to celebrate yourself? It doesn’t have to be a luxurious vacation. It just has to have You with complete You!

And oh yeah! Make sure you capture your happiest self in a dreamy self-portrait.