Mom Always Knows Best – 5 Lessons My Mother Taught me About Marriage

When it comes to marriages, mom always knows best. Needless to say, it’s an important milestone in the life of every girl. Recently, I stepped into the sacred institution of marriage, and just like any other mother, my mom too shared valuable lessons with me that would help make this new journey in my life less arduous. Getting adjusted to a new environment, new people, and of course a new way of living is no mean feat. However, since our mums have ‘been there, done that’, their advice is no less than the sacred Bible. While it’s not easy for them to let go of their “little girl”, their valuable pearls of wisdom are always welcome.

Life Lessons on Marriage – What My Mother Taught Me

Through this blog, I aim at sharing five heart-warming life lessons my mother taught me just before I got married.

·         Pursue your Dreams & Passion

Though my mom chose to be a “stay-at-home-mother” (SAHM), she never let that define her. She always channelled her inner creativity to do so many different things. Whether it was painting or trying out a new recipe, she always made productive use of her time, and that’s exactly what she taught me. A piece of advice she gave me was to never let go on my individuality. My mum always says that no matter how busy your schedule is, spare some time to do something you love.

·         Respect his Parents

Getting married also means going into a new family. In an age where girls are asked to dress and behave in a certain way in front of her “in-laws”, my mum always taught me to be myself and respect elders. Her mantra was simple – “treat others in the same way you would want to be treated”. A month before my wedding, she told me that the extended members of my new family would have different habits and interests, and I may not feel ‘at home’. She also told me that no matter how long it takes to adjust to this new setting, learn to respect the people around you especially his parents. Honestly, the first few days in my new home did feel strange and different, but my mum’s golden words seriously helped me cope.

·         Always be Financially Independent

Back in the day, women were asked to forgo their interests and hobbies, and stay home to take care of the household chores. Well, things are different today. Though many of our mothers may have not worked or stayed out, they understand the importance of financial independence. From a very young age, my mother inculcated in me the habit of saving, and being financially independent. Today, both my partner and I are earning, and consider ourselves self-sufficient. Being financially stable has also increased my self-confidence.

·         Walk hand-in-hand in Sickness & in Health

My parents have been my biggest inspiration for this. Despite all the ups and downs that came their way, they were always each other’s biggest cheerleaders. My mother taught me the same lesson. She said “for a marriage to last, teamwork is very important”. If you support him through thick-and-thin, and vice versa, the marriage will really work”. Over the last few days, I have realised that this friendship and mutual admiration has made my relationship with my partner really work.

·         I will Always be There for you

The last thing my mother told me just before I left home was that no matter what happens, she would always be there for me. She said “whenever you’re tired of behaving like a mature adult, you’re most welcome to come home”. The solace of knowing that my parents will always be there for me gives me the zest and enthusiasm to take on every new day.

If you’re someone who is going to walk down the aisle in the next few months, take these lessons with you. Three weeks into my marriage, these lessons have really helped me, and I hope they are beneficial for you too.