Senseless Things Unmarried Women Hear Post their 30s

As a woman, you might love being single. Unfortunately, the people around you won’t let you live in peace as they will always have some kind of unsolicited advice to give you. Also, let’s be honest, it’s not just the single ones who get this advice. Even the married women are told some really bizarre things. The same people who were after you to get married will then ask you when you’re having kids. Well, it can be downright frustrating to listen to these people. Honestly, no matter how much you try to shut them up, they will keep popping up at functions, weddings and other family gatherings.

If you thought you’re the only one getting a barrage of questions, you’re mistaken. It’s the same story for unmarried women everywhere.

7 Things Single Women Do Not want to Hear Anymore

Let’s look at some of the most ridiculous things unmarried women are tired of hearing especially post their 30s:

• “You’re so pretty. How are you still single?”

When someone asks you this question, it’s as good as they’re complimenting and insulting you at the same time. Well, being in a relationship or being married is more than just a “pretty face”. Relatives should stop judging women solely on their appearance. There are many reasons even pretty women choose to be single. Maybe they’ve not found the right one or have trust issues when it comes to dating. Ultimately, it all boils down to one’s personal choice.

• “Your biological clock is ticking”

When someone says “your biological clock is ticking”, they mean as you get older it might get difficult for you to reproduce. This is one major reason a lot of unmarried women are choosing to freeze their eggs these days. It’s ridiculous how thirty-something women are constantly bombarded with questions around kids. Single women are aware that as they get older it might get difficult for them to get pregnant. It doesn’t have to be rubbed into their faces every single time. These days even married women are contemplating whether they should have kids or not. There are plenty of reasons for this. For example, the population in our country is booming or then certain working couples choose not to have them as they don’t think they can give their kids the lifestyle they deserve. Some might dislike the idea of having kids. A graceful way to respond would be to tell them that you want kids but want to even wait for the right person.

• “If you’re overqualified, you won’t find the right man”

Women today are ambitious. They want to make it big in whatever field they’re in. The reason why women are single even after they turn 30 is because they want to pursue their higher education or decide to enrol in a diploma program. However, people can’t keep quiet. Girls actually get to hear things like “don’t spend your money on education, instead use it to have a wedding”. Also, it’s a sin to be an overqualified woman in India. Because, if you are, you won’t find the right match. Men don’t like women who are more qualified than them. It’s a sad reality in India that well-educated women are often asked to quit their jobs before marriage only so that they can sit at home and raise their children. If a woman wants to pursue her studies over getting married, let her be!

• “You should settle down”

This is one of the most annoying statements women get. If one is not married or does not have kids, does it mean they’re unsettled? We need to deep dive into the meaning of what it really means to be “settled”? People need to understand that marriage is not the end goal of life. Maybe single women are happy with how their life is even if they’re not married. If you’re 30 and still haven’t settled down, it’s okay. If you’re happy, successful and enjoying your freedom, don’t get perturbed by what naysayers have to say.

• “You have a boyfriend, why don’t both of you get married”?

This is another annoying question. If you’ve been dating someone for years, everyone around you wants to know when you’re tying the knot. Why can’t you decide for yourself? Some people might just want to casually date without any commitment or strings attached. According to me, I think this is completely normal and there is nothing wrong. Unmarried women are even happy being in a live-in relationship. Honestly, you don’t need to let their opinion affect you. It’s your future and you decide for yourself. There are some random aunties that keep asking you this question because maybe they want to attend a wedding. As funny as it sounds, it’s true.

• “Your younger sister or brother can’t get married till you don’t tie the knot”

In India, it’s usually the older child that gets married first. I find this quite bizarre. Why should a younger sibling wait for their older sibling to find love? Companionship, love and marriage are things that definitely cannot be forced. I am talking out of experience as I got married before my older sister. I found love before her and my parents were completely okay with getting me married first. It’s funny for society to put marital pressure on a single woman only so that her sibling can then go ahead and find the right match. In my opinion, it’s selfish.

• “Why don’t you consider online dating”?

A lot of women are single today because they haven’t found the right match and nor have their parents. People still butt in and ask “have you considered online dating”? You’re 30+ and of course you’ve heard of dating sites. You can politely tell them that you’ve considered it without coming across as rude. They don’t realise that maybe you’ve met some creeps online because of which you like to stay away from dating sites. All they have is useless advice for you.

Conclusion

These are just a few things unmarried women hear all the time. Trust me, there’s a lot more. In fact, a few comments, statements and questions are even nasty. As the popular Hindi phrase goes “kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kahana”. If you start listening to all of them, you won’t be able to lead a content life. It would be really nice if people, relatives and aunties could just let us be.