Skip These 5 Topics When Talking with New Moms!

By Dhanalakshmi M

Congratulations, new moms! You've embarked on an incredible journey filled with love, joy, and sleepless nights. Being a new mom can be incredibly overwhelming, with a multitude of tasks to juggle, such as feeding, diaper changes,postpartum recovery, and some random advice. The constant demands can make it feel like there's an endless to-do list. It's crucial to recognize that she needs to avoid additional stress caused by worries about others' opinions regarding her baby or her postpartum body. 

While our intentions are often well-meaning, it's important to be mindful of the potential insensitivity of our words. When visiting a new mom, it's essential to keep in mind a few things that should never be said to her.

So let's dive in 5 Topics to Avoid When Talking to a New Mom

1) Work-Life Balance:

Finding balance between work and motherhood is like juggling flaming torches. It's tough! So, don't ask questions like "When are you going back to work?" or make comments about their decision to work or stay at home. Show support and understanding instead. They need it!

2) Breastfeeding:

Breastfeeding can be tough and really personal for new moms, you know? So, it's best not to ask them about their decision, whether it’s exclusive breastfeeding or formula feeding; it's all about mom and their babies comfort. Just be supportive without judging and respect whatever they choose to do.

3) Birth Stories:

Everyone's birth experience is different, and some can be quite traumatic. Avoid sharing horror stories or asking for details about the birth unless the new mom initiates the conversation. Respect her privacy and the emotions surrounding her birth experience.

4) Personal Questions:

Steer clear of asking personal questions like

"Did you have a natural birth?" 

"Are you planning to have more children?" 

"Why do you look so tired?” or

"When will you stop breastfeeding?"

These questions invade privacy and can bring up sensitive emotions. Respect their boundaries, and let them share if they feel comfortable.

5)  Postpartum Body:

Ladies, let's not go there, okay? Body image is a touchy subject for many women, especially after giving birth. Don't ask questions like  

"Why haven't you lost the baby weight yet?" ,

"Are you happy with how you look now?" ,

"When will you get your pre-baby body back?" . 

Skip the questions about weight or appearance. Instead, shower them with compliments about their strength and the incredible journey they've embarked on.

When engaging with a new mom, it's important to be mindful of our words and topics of conversation. By avoiding sensitive subjects like weight, sleep deprivation, unsolicited advice, and comparisons. Instead, let's focus on creating a safe and supportive space for these incredible moms. We should celebrate their journey, lend an ear when they need to vent, and offer a helping hand when possible. Remember, being empathetic and understanding can truly make a world of difference in nurturing a positive environment for new moms. So let's chat away and show our support!