Instagram Buzz: Just Married? 7 Things That Every NEWLY MARRIED Woman Should Do

By Ruchi Sharma

Marriage is one of the most cherished experiences for a woman. Getting married and starting a new life sounds exciting but can leave you overwhelmed too. While you cherish your new phase of life, one thing that is of paramount importance is that you should not lose your own identity. A woman leaves her home, settles into a completely new environment and then the worst that can happen is getting so lost amidst the changes that a few years later, you don’t even recognise yourself. It’s actually easy to get lost while trying to cope up with a new home, new relations and new responsibilities but at the end of the day it’s your OWN individuality that will leave a sense of satisfaction in your mind. 

So, for this month’s Insta Buzz, we have chosen a carousel from our Girls Buzz Instagram Page which tells all about the 7 most important things every newly married lady should do! Let’s get rolling!!!

1. Don't Own All The Housework And Take Out Some Self-Care Time Every Day

Have you gotten married to just do housework? The zeal to do everything yourself and impress the family is understandable. You are still trying to pave your way into everyone’s hearts. But not giving enough time to yourself will only make you sick and nothing else. Don’t shy away from taking help. Your new family is your FAMILY too, freely express yourself and share household responsibilities. A few minutes of self care routine is a must, it will make you feel rejuvenated and fresh!

2. Be Yourself Rather Than Bring About Drastic Changes In Your Personality

Don’t try to copy someone! There is nothing like the ‘perfect bahu’ or ‘perfect wife’ standards. If you just change yourself completely, what’s left that makes you who you are? True, marriage involves a lot of adjustments. But it’s a two way street. Your new family and your husband know who you are and love you for it. If you simply become someone you aren’t, a few years down the line, you won't be able to recognise yourself too!

3. Call Your Husband By His Name

Respecting your husband is fine, but gone are the days when you needed to address your better half as ‘Aji, sunte ho’ and later as ‘Bittu ke Papa’! Your husband has a beautiful name, call him by it. You love it when he calls you by your name lovingly, right? It's the same for him too! If someone doesn't approve, feel free to put your thoughts across to them. If it’s a tradition in the family not to take your husband’s name, discuss it with your husband. Conversation is important in a relationship. Calling your husband by his name can never mean disrespect. 

4. Don't Go Into The Habit Of Seeking Permission For Everything

You are your own person. Keeping the family informed about your whereabouts is good both for safety reasons and also ensuring they are involved in your life. But you don’t need permission for every minute thing. You aren’t a child! If a decision concerns someone else, then 100% you must ask them but when it is something as mundane as meeting your friend or going out for a walk, you don’t need to seek permission. Keep your husband and family involved in your life, but don’t lose your independence.

5. Don't Forget Your Likes, Dislikes And Hobbies

Your hobbies and interests are like a fresh breath of air in your life. Never let go of them. The calmness and happiness you feel when you do something you like is an experience that cannot be expressed in words. If you dislike something, voice it out. While if you like something or enjoy a hobby like painting, singing etc., take out some ‘Me time’ and indulge in it every few days.

6. Don't Leave Your Job

In today’s world, financial independence for a woman is extremely important. Having your own earning not only makes you feel empowered but also ensures you can afford all the necessities for yourself. Not only earning but having your own savings can make you prepared for the unforeseen future. Take a break for the first few days of marriage to settle in but never leave your job only because you are getting married. Being financially dependent on anyone will only hamper your confidence.

7. Stay In Touch With Your Friends

Friends are your support system. There are so many things that you can freely share with your friends without the fear of being judged. Never lose touch with them. If you can’t frequently meet them, technology is now your new best friend too. Arrange zoom meetings with them at least once a week. Of course you can chat or call them as frequently as you like too. True friends are the biggest treasure you have earned, never let go of them!

So, here are some things that every newly married bride should do to ensure her individuality doesn’t get lost. Do you have more thoughts to share? Feel free to share in the comments section below.